After arriving in Japan I was going to Grace Baptist Church. This church is very active in presenting the gospel and witnessing for Christ. However, after the first few months, the doors seemed to be closing for me to attend there. I could not understand why the Lord was leading me to another place. Perhaps I was thinking of convenience and comfort for myself. Following God's leading, I began attending Faith Baptist Church in April, 1982. This meant I would be using 2 train lines to get to church. Including the walk to the station, the train rides, and the walk to church, one way was at least an hour.
My first Sunday I was introduced to a young man who just became a Christian. At that time I was barely able to say, "Hello. How do you do?" in Japanese. The following month Mr. Miyashita was baptized and became actively involved in the church. For the next 2 years I traveled to church and was greeted by Mr. Miyashita. Each week he would ask me about school or my studies. When I found out he was single, I was very careful and cautious, because I had no intentions of looking for someone or someone looking for me.
March 1984, the missionary couple returned to the States for 9 months. During that time Mr. Miyashita was to be in charge of the church. The Sunday School department fell into my hands. Also, while the missionaries were away, I was to move into their house, with the intentions to find my own place just before they returned to Japan. Well, the Lord had other plans.
Mr. Miyashita and I had to get together to discuss the Sunday School material and other church business. From the start I did not like the situation at all. Our testimonies were of an extreme importance before the church and the lost. Therefore, we always met at a public place such as a restaurant, park, or store. One day I noticed the conversation changed to a more casual talk. The he started using English. With a strong Japanese accent, it was difficult to listen to his speaking. It was not long until I heard (in English, so there was no mistake), "Rebecca, I like you." I was in total shock, because I knew he meant more than just being friends. My reply was short and cold, "I'm sorry. We can only be friends." It was not that I was playing hard to get, I did not want to be got at all.
The next week I was in much prayer about the situation. What should I do? Should I move and work with another missionary? One afternoon while I was cleaning house for the young people's pizza party, the Lord seemed to give me His answer, "Isaac had found his bride." This was NOT the answer I had expected. There were so many things I did not understand, but by the time I finished cleaning and making the pizza preparations, I had submitted to God's will. "Yes, if he asks me to marry him, I will." Actually, I was hoping the question would never come up.
Up until that time our meetings were, in my view point, strictly for business purposes only. Well, after the pizza party he asked me out for dinner. I gave no definite answer, but would reply on Sunday at church. Again, I was hoping to avoid the issue. As I was getting in the car to leave church, I was thinking, "Good, he forgot." But before I could leave, he asked me what time he should come by to get me for dinner. Still avoiding the issue, I was trying to think of an excuse when he said he would be by at 6:00.
Sure enough, the night of our "date" he asked me to marry him. I had already told the Lord my answer the week before, but I wanted to make 100% sure. After discussing many things like 1-What language will we speak at home? 2-What about my American citizenship? 3-What about children? How many? What about their schooling? What about their nationality?, etc. I finally suggested we pray about it.
That night I committed it all to the Lord. He would have to show me how to love this man. Most people decide to get married because they love each other. This was not how I had dreamed it would be. However, Rebekah in the Bible had never met Isaac when she agreed to be his wife. Well, the next day I gave him my answer. His reply, "I'll never forget the first time I saw you. It was love at first sight. I have prayed for 2 years that God would give me you to be my wife."
Then I understood why God led me to Faith Baptist Church. Also, why He gave me peace about marrying this man. It goes to show you, in any situation or circumstance, leave the final decision up to the Lord. He knows best for our lives. I am so glad I let Him choose my husband.